Some good parenting

[JB White]

I recall a time (1965) when my brother and I thought it fun to hit passing trucks with stones. Made a large noise and we might have to run away from a PO'd truck driver. The beat cop pinched us. Walked us home holding me by the hair and my brother by his ear. (he had a crew cut)
Cop held one of us on the front porch while my mother took the strap to the @ss, then traded off for the next one. Welted, embarrassed in front of the neighbors, and fearful of going to jail next time, we never threw stones like that again.

I only wish they thought having us walk with a sign would have been punishment enough. Doesn't matter the home life and all that other PC BS. The kids learned a lesson.

[Vern Humphrey]

"Shaming doesn't work." ? That person probably has nothing to be ashamed of. And I suppose in their world locking up violent offenders, fines don't work either.

Let me slip into my training mode. There are three realms of learning:

Cognitive, which deals with language, logic, and similar things -- "book learning" if you will.

Psycho-motor, which deals with physical matters -- throwing a ball, riding a bike and so on.

Affective, which deals with values and attitudes.

Each realm has its own strategies -- you will appreciate you can't learn to throw a ball by listening to a lecture. You can't learn calculus by riding a unicycle.

The Affective strategies are things like pride, status, shame and so on. Make a person proud, and he will value the things that led to that. Make him ashamed and he will avoid the acts that produced shame.

[free1954]

The Affective strategies are things like pride, status, shame and so on. Make a person proud, and he will value the things that led to that. Make him ashamed and he will avoid the acts that produced shame.

words so true they should be posted above every classroom door.

[free1954]

I learned not to throw bickerburrs in my sister's hair, not because my mother's chiding of how long it took her to brush them out, but because of my granma smacking me across the back of my legs with her sheleighly.
and I don't know what the big deal is about walking to school. I walked to school all the time.

[blackhawknj]

We need to bring back the Scarlet Letter, the Dunce Cap. I recall as case a few years ago, a woman was nailed for shoplifting in a Walmart. The judge made her walk back and forth in front of the store for several hours a day wearing a sandwich board detailing her transgressions. In France after the Liberation women who "collaborated" too cozily with the Germans had their heads shaved, I recall seeing pictures of a Danish woman, they shaved her head, forced her to wear a Nazi flag and marched her thought the streets holding pictures of her German "friends".
On another board the topic of "bullying" came up. One member said in his school, one the assistant principals doubled as a coach, 6'2" Golden Gloves Heavyweight. They'd set up a ring in the gym, the bully had to square off against him, everybody got to watch.

[Former Cav]

My father would hit me across the butt with his razor strop (he was a barber). No one called it abuse back then (1950's to 1965 when I went into the army).
FEAR was a GREAT motivator. My mother would offer me two choices: "well Robert, you did XXX, you can write a written letter of apology to xxx OR you can be grounded for a week with NO TV and NO allowance). BTW... I was RATIONED to 1 hour of TV per day and it had to be "approved of"
If MOM thought that it was an offense that required more attention, then it was "wait till your father gets home" !!
I'm not in prison and I paid my taxes and have turned out to be a pretty good citizen.
Nowadays that would be ABUSE.
I LIVE next door to a mid school shrink and boy does SHE NEED HELP!

[Ken The Kanuck]

It is my belief that the most important lesson a parent can teach their child is that "there are consequences for their actions".

This mother is doing exactly that hence I call it good parenting.

KTK